Comments for Grief is a journey... http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com Picking up the pieces from a tragic and unexpected loss Mon, 08 Jun 2009 14:16:49 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Heartbroken by caitsmom http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/03/08/heartbroken/#comment-34 caitsmom Mon, 08 Jun 2009 14:16:49 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=22#comment-34 Thinking of you and your blogger friend, Natalie. And mourning the loss of our precious children. Peace. Thinking of you and your blogger friend, Natalie. And mourning the loss of our precious children. Peace.

]]> Comment on What do you say? by Connie http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/what-do-you-say/#comment-33 Connie Wed, 27 Feb 2008 19:58:50 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-33 I'm glad that you were able to go to your baby's grave~as difficult as it is, I think it's helpful. The 1st few times that I went to my precious baby's grave, I didn't say anything~only wept. After the 1st few times though, I'd talk to him like I was having a conversation w/him. I tell him how much I love & miss him, how I wish I could see, hold, cuddle, kiss etc. him. I tell him about things that are going on w/us & talk about what kind of weather we're having~you know, just everyday stuff. I Know that may seem strange to some but he was a part of me for 39 weeks, I'll <b>never</b> forget him & I'll <b>never</b> let go. I think what's important here though is that YOU do what YOU'RE comfortable with & what comes natural to you. (((hugs))) I’m glad that you were able to go to your baby’s grave~as difficult as it is, I think it’s helpful. The 1st few times that I went to my precious baby’s grave, I didn’t say anything~only wept. After the 1st few times though, I’d talk to him like I was having a conversation w/him. I tell him how much I love & miss him, how I wish I could see, hold, cuddle, kiss etc. him. I tell him about things that are going on w/us & talk about what kind of weather we’re having~you know, just everyday stuff. I Know that may seem strange to some but he was a part of me for 39 weeks, I’ll never forget him & I’ll never let go. I think what’s important here though is that YOU do what YOU’RE comfortable with & what comes natural to you. (((hugs)))

]]> Comment on What do you say? by Catwoman http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/what-do-you-say/#comment-32 Catwoman Tue, 19 Feb 2008 21:41:36 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-32 I think it took tremendous courage for you to face your grief head on and go. I think it took tremendous courage for you to face your grief head on and go.

]]> Comment on Baby #2, or #4? by Catwoman http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/01/26/baby-2-or-4/#comment-31 Catwoman Tue, 19 Feb 2008 21:25:24 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=16#comment-31 I can't believe people would ask you that, even if had been years since the loss. But so soon after? You poor thing. I can’t believe people would ask you that, even if had been years since the loss. But so soon after? You poor thing.

]]> Comment on What do you say? by Ann http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/what-do-you-say/#comment-30 Ann Mon, 11 Feb 2008 16:59:19 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-30 I'm at a loss. I don't even know what to say as a comment on this post. I think the most that any of us wants is for our child(ren) to know we lived him/them. That's the most important thing in the world. I’m at a loss. I don’t even know what to say as a comment on this post.

I think the most that any of us wants is for our child(ren) to know we lived him/them. That’s the most important thing in the world.

]]> Comment on What do you say? by the.freak.underneath http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/what-do-you-say/#comment-29 the.freak.underneath Sun, 10 Feb 2008 01:56:01 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-29 I never know what to say either. But I think just going and being there is enough. I can't even find myself able to do that. But I am going to try. I think we just have to do the best, that we can...and somehow be o.k. with that. I never know what to say either. But I think just going and being there is enough. I can’t even find myself able to do that. But I am going to try. I think we just have to do the best, that we can…and somehow be o.k. with that.

]]> Comment on What do you say? by Sara http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/what-do-you-say/#comment-28 Sara Thu, 07 Feb 2008 14:28:44 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-28 I know this doesn't come CLOSE to comparing to your loss but my fiancee lost his first wife in 2005 to Ovarian Cancer and I went about a year ago to her grave and it was sooo hard, but at the same time I felt like I needed to go. I haven't been back, and when I went I just kind of stood there, but I know in y heard that I needed to go there and just be there. Okay, lots of rambling but I don't know if that helps or not but sometimes it's okay to just "be" there. I know this doesn’t come CLOSE to comparing to your loss but my fiancee lost his first wife in 2005 to Ovarian Cancer and I went about a year ago to her grave and it was sooo hard, but at the same time I felt like I needed to go. I haven’t been back, and when I went I just kind of stood there, but I know in y heard that I needed to go there and just be there. Okay, lots of rambling but I don’t know if that helps or not but sometimes it’s okay to just “be” there.

]]> Comment on What do you say? by Yummy Sushi Pajamas http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/what-do-you-say/#comment-27 Yummy Sushi Pajamas Thu, 07 Feb 2008 11:28:34 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-27 I don't think any of us know, but whatever you said, they know your heart. I don’t think any of us know, but whatever you said, they know your heart.

]]> Comment on What do you say? by Chas http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/what-do-you-say/#comment-26 Chas Thu, 07 Feb 2008 03:45:33 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-26 I definitely think that there's nothing you're supposed to do; you do what comes naturally. I'm sure it's going to take time. God bless! I definitely think that there’s nothing you’re supposed to do; you do what comes naturally. I’m sure it’s going to take time. God bless!

]]> Comment on What do you say? by Wendy http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/what-do-you-say/#comment-25 Wendy Thu, 07 Feb 2008 03:43:09 +0000 http://rcarmichael05.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-25 I think it was fine for you to just stand there and take it all in. Just listening to the peace and quiet. I think it was fine for you to just stand there and take it all in. Just listening to the peace and quiet.

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